Anonymous asked: I was talking to a group of cis het women co-workers about asexuality. They said cis men can't be ace and if they are, they're just gay. I refuted that. They said all women are ace or demi b/c they don't "need" sex like men do; they aren't attracted to guys, just want him to be attracted to her. All agreed that women don't have libidos and just fake desire and orgasm to get marriage and kids. Then one admitted that she found some guys hot but hated sex. They called her a prude. I tried! Help.
Ugh can anyone say internalized misogyny and rape culture?!
That’s disgusting. Approximately 98-99% of women (based on the statistics that 1% of the world’s population is asexual, it follows that then at least 1% of women should be asexual) are not asexual. Probably. Even if there is a higher percentage of women who are asexual, it’s nowhere near a majority.
Women definitely experience sexual attraction, if they do not identify as asexual. No one needs sex - the notion that men need sex is used to justify men raping women because they just can’t control themselves. That’s bullshit. Women definitely have libidos - even ace women have libidos. That is an age old myth that has been proven wrong by plenty of research.
That women who said she found guys hot? Experiences sexual attraction, not asexual at all. Hating sex is a totally different thing - sex, like any activity, is not for everyone.
Also, isn’t it wonderfully hypocritical to say that all women are asexual with no libido, but have to want sex? Also also, NOT ALL WOMEN WANT KIDS I swear to god I’m going to punch someone about this one day.
On the topic of faking orgasms - if men were actually any good at sex, heterosexual women wouldn’t be faking orgasms at all. You should never stay with someone who isn’t willing to learn how to give you an actual orgasm, if sex is indeed a thing you want to have.
Ugh I hope that was fully coherent and not just me yelling angrily about those asshats you work with.
Bob and the deli guy.
#i had to make this just so i could watch it whenever i wanted #i just fucking love that it’s not played off like the usual gay panic joke #this rly exemplifies the humor of the show for me and why I love it so much #it’s akward and weird but never EVER mean #the important misunderstanding in this situation isn’t Bob’s sexuality; it’s the reason why he keeps buying turkeys #like he’s def more concerned that this deli guy thinks he’s not a real cook than he is about being hit on